One of the most painful things that happen during a breakup is that people say and do things that they don’t mean. Exes act in confusing ways that can be hard to interpret.
Your ex won’t make grand gestures if he wants you back, so it’s worth talking about other signs when your ex wants you back because he still loves you:
Below are 17 undeniable signs that yes, your ex still loves you and wants you back.
1. He maintains contact with you when he doesn’t have to.
One of the more obvious signs your ex still loves you is that he stays in touch.
He might text out of the blue or call for really flimsy reasons. Men don’t usually hunger and yearn for an exe’s attention if they have fallen out of love. It’s a definite sign your ex misses you if he keeps popping into your life.
2. He says he still wants to be friends and tries to make time for you.
Most of the time when an ex says he still wants to be friends, he is really saying that he’s not ready to cope with the loss. It’s one of those normal things that people say when they break up.
He might have genuinely meant it in the moment.
In practice, trying to stay friends with your ex is painful, since it keeps reopening the wound. The real sign that he doesn’t want to let go of you is whether he tries to hang out after saying he wants to stay friends.
3. He keeps explaining your breakup.
Does he feel the need to keep rehashing the reasons for your breakup? Does he send you texts or emails about why he left? Does he keep bringing it up even when it doesn’t make sense? Does he discuss or “joke” about getting back together?
All of this “closure” means that he’s still trying to sort it out in his own mind. The fact that he feels the need to keep talking about it shows that you’re still on his mind.
4. His people subtly try to convince you to talk to him.
It takes a village to support a man who is stuck on a woman.
If his people keep dropping hints that he misses you, he is probably not subtle about how he still has feelings for you. When your ex wants you back, his friends and family will gently try to push you toward each other both because they believe in love and because they’re incredibly sick of listening to him rant about you.
5. He’s not moving on.
Is your ex stubbornly not dating anyone in a quest to “find himself”? Is he doing the “hurt and wounded” fallen soldier of love thing?
When your ex doesn’t move on with someone new it can be a sign that he hopes you will get back together. He might also be so devastated by your breakup that he can’t imagine himself dating someone new.
6. He’s moving on a lot.
Has he been hooking up with a lot of different women? Do you sense that none of these women have real long term relationship potential?
Maybe he’s picked out a particular woman that he does the whole “Netflix and chill” routine with, but won’t give her the title of girlfriend.
When he won’t move on after your breakup, you guessed it, he probably still loves you.
7. His rebound girlfriend hates your guts with a fiery passion.
This is one of the weirder signs he wants you back, but hear me out. Rebound relationships usually include a lot of emotional venting, since the recently broken up person has not had a lot of time to process the breakup before moving on.
If she hates you, she probably feels competitive and is trying to stake her territory. The fact that this is an issue at all points to his unresolved feelings about you.
8. He stalks your social media.
Does your ex comb through your Facebook and like a bunch of your posts? Does he still comment and share things you post?
All of these are signs that he still might have feelings for you. If he didn’t, he wouldn’t be monitoring your social media content like it was essential late-breaking news. He might also be posting a LOT more than usual about how amazingly happy and perfect his life is now.
If you can, unfriend him even if you think you might want him back because having him in your face all the time isn’t going to help you feel better. The temptation to stay up late wondering what he’s up to can be really hard to resist.
9. He stays in touch with your people.
Guys with no feelings cut ties and move on from their old lives. If he’s still initiating contact with your people after the breakup, he might be trying to keep tabs on what you’re up to.
10. He’s still there for you.
Does he offer to fix things, do things for you or share his resources without being asked? Could you call your ex and both get ahold of him and have him help you?
It could be simply because he’s a good guy who cares about you, it can also mean he misses you. Men’s caring comes through in their actions more than any other way.