No one said it was going to be all rosy in marriage. There are bound to be disagreements… over and again, but how you handle things in tough times will determine how long your marriage is going to last.
Check these four proven ways to handle disagreement and come out stronger as a couple.
1. Expect to disagree with each other
Open your mind to disagreements. Disagreement simply means addressing your differences and it’s not a bad thing. It’s actually an avenue to get to know each other better, it’s only bad if it occurs too much or becomes abusive.
Do not waste time trying to change your spouse’s mind. Changing people has proven almost impossible because of the fundamental differences, opinion, personality or values. Rather, accept one another and respect the differences.
2. Make sacrifices for each other
To sacrifice is to give up something valuable or precious, often with the intent of accomplishing a greater purpose or goal
Sacrifice doesn’t mean hurting yourself to please other people; it simply means loving them enough to share that your valuable possession with them. It involves attention, awareness, discipline, effort and being able to care about someone even when it seems hard.
3. Practice intentional communication
Learn to initiate communication with your partner and be as free as you need to be. Communication creates an avenue to express your deepest thoughts and wishes, rather than leaving your partner to guess. The truth is, a relationship where there is no conscious communication has a higher risk of problems. Do not try to read your partner’s mind and don’t assume they can read yours. Just say it and be willing to listen, not for the purpose of a reply but to understand. And lastly, do not judge.
4. Take responsibility
To take responsibility does not mean to be in charge or to Lord over, it simply means working as a team. Knowing your role and fulfilling your responsibility. Do not blame your partner for everything, identify your fault and own up to it.
Take responsibility for your actions. Take responsibility for your relationship. Constant nagging and blame shifting wouldn’t solve anything; it will only make things work. Blaming them is a copout that accomplishes nothing. Face your marriage as a team and keep being a team.