We’ve all heard about that someone who was cheated on got the heart shattered. You always thought you would never be there, but the truth is far from it. In fact, studies show that cheating occurs in half of all relationships. You may have had all the smart answers when it came to your friends, but once this type of emotional bombshell hits you, it’s hard to think rationally about what you should do next. Making the decision isn’t easy, but using our guide below will help you decide whether to stay with your partner or to run for the hills.
Acceptance is the first step
Not accepting the situation will make your life more stressful. Accepting the fact that you were cheated on by your partner and that it wasn’t your fault will help you get over this heartbreaking relationship and move on to bigger and better things, albeit slowly and cautiously.
Talk it all out
Talking about your hurt feelings, whether they are small or large, always helps. Find someone you trust or a therapist to help you work through your feelings and help you decide what to do next.
It’s not your fault
You always hear people telling their children during a divorce that it’s not their fault, and the same is true here. You didn’t cause this betrayal and blaming yourself won’t help you in the short or long run. Running through thoughts such as “what could I have done better” will just drive you crazy in the end.
Don’t try to rationalise it
Giving rationalisation to a cheating partner can be devastating to your relationship and to yourself. Have respect for yourself and for your relationship before the sad incident occurred, and let it all go.
Give yourself some time to grieve over the lost relationship, and then get over it. Go out, have fun, spend time with friends and family and surround yourself with everything you love. Eventually, you’ll start to feel better and better and will be able to fully move on.
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Seeing a couple being romantic in a restaurant, or out on a walk, may make you want to hurl things at them during this time. Let yourself feel what you’re feeling, but keep going with your life. Writing down your feelings can help you figure out a deeper connection with yourself and your emotions.
Forgive them and mean it
Forgiveness is the key to happiness, but if you just say so and don’t mean it, this forgiveness only makes thing worse. So before you decide to forgive your partner, you have to think it thoroughly, really make up your mind and stick to your decision in the future. Forgiveness only works in helping the relationship if it’s true.