I really need help. I am in still in love with my ex. We dated for 2 years then we broke up, but I still can’t move on. I love him so much.
I don’t know if you can help me. I don’t think I can live without him. I sometimes think of taking my life since I can’t have him, please help me.
The problem with obsession is that it is self defeating. It takes away your independence, making you dependent on someone else for your joy, happiness, self being and self worth. As such, your world revolves around an individual. You are happy when he is happy with you and sad when he is not.
This tendency for obsession will pretty much choke the life out of every relationship you would enter into. You get possessive and jealous of everything and everyone around him. Worse off, you become clingy and refuse to give him space; and trust me, men don’t like that.
Most obsessive love like this is borne out of a childhood/developmental stage deficiency which you are trying to compensate for. Problems with a father figure, rape, rejection, teenage developmental problems amongst many. You must realize it is a problem by the time you start thinking of committing suicide. My dear, NOBODY is worth you committing suicide for. You are a valuable life that God has made and Christ died for.
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