I need your help. I met a nice guy and we started dating almost immediately. I love him dearly and he loves me too. He says he wants to get married cos he’s not longer a child. My problem with him is that he smokes cigarettes. I hate it. He said he can quit but my elder sister says he can’t and even if he does, he will eventually go back to it.
I have just broken up with him because of that. I can’t spend the rest of my life with someone that smokes. No.
Dear Davina, do you think I made a mistake breaking up with him? Please help me I’m not feeling good at all.
No, I do not think you made a mistake. Different people have different things that are deal breakers for them when in a relationship. For you, the smoking business is a deal breaker; for some other person, might be something else. Everyone is entitled to their personal moral standards.
You love him now and all but trust me, when you get married, the love will not be enough to sustain your marriage. It’s then you’ll find out that these little details (the deal breakers) make a world of difference.
Do not lower your moral uprightness in the name of love. If you can deal with it, by all means but if you cannot stand the smoke, don’t touch it. Tobacco addiction is one of the hardest to break so I can understand your elder sister’s skepticism.
All the best dear
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