I want to share with you my love life story and I need your help. I’ve been dating a guy for a year now but we are always fighting. He doesn’t beat me but we argue a lot. It has affected me so much that I also get mad at my friends the way he does me. He keeps saying I am cheating on him but I’m not. He doesn’t trust me but I love him.
Late last year, I got pregnant for him and I had to abort it because he’s not working yet and I don’t want to be a teenage mother. I know I have done a bad thing but I believe ‘God’ understands me. As usual, we had a fight one day and he said: “How am I sure I’m the owner of the pregnancy you aborted?” I was heartbroken. After the pain I’d gone through, how could he say that?
I forgave him and moved on with him but recently he asked me for sex and I turned him down. What he did next will shock you also. He texted me and said “If it were those niggas that give you money, you’d let them f**k you.” To my understanding, that message indirectly meant I was a prostitute. I was so mad at him but again, I forgave him.
Just yesterday, he said it was over. I don’t know why but I was so happy when he said that, even though part of me still wants him. I am liking a guy very close to him. The guy has always been nice to me and understanding. To stop myself from dating my boyfriend’s friend, I asked my friend to date him. But I love the guy so much, I mean my now Ex’s friend. I can’t stop thinking about him.
What should I do, Davina? Help me before I do something crazier.
Sweetheart, from what I gather here, you are pretty young… I think this is way above your league. You’ve already had to deal with abuse alongside a pregnancy/abortion as a teenager, that’s more than some people get to deal with in an entire lifetime. So straight off the cuff, I’ll tell you to take a break! Take a break from relationships, men and all the drama involved. Allow yourself breathe and heal.
Getting involved with this other guy will be more of a rebound than anything serious. Besides, I don’t think you need the drama that is sure to ensue when your boyfriend who never trusted you in the first place finds out you’re involved with his friend. I generally advice people to avoid the ex’s friends where possible. The triangle is usually too messy, especially when the relationship didn’t exactly end well.
Even if you eventually decide that what you two have is worth pursuing, I suggest you give it some time. Meanwhile, you enjoy being single for a while. Focus on developing yourself and falling in love with you. Build yourself into a woman that any man will be only too proud to have. You can have a loving, drama-free relationship with a man who practically adores you, you deserve that…Every lady does.
Thankfully, you still have age on your side, so take your time darling. Love will find you in good time.
All the best dear.
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