I am 28 years old and dating a guy who is also 28 but I am 8 months older than he is. His friends are not in support of him marrying a woman who is older and personally, he feels I may grow older than him in a few years. I sometimes feel same. I am a bit taller than he is and recently, I have put on a bit more flesh which scares him a lot. He’s concerned that I am looking bigger than he is.
We love each other and aim to stick together no matter what society thinks. But I’m wondering, is it bad for a lady to marry a man she is 8 months older than? And if so, what are some of the future repercussions?
Thanks. I hope to hear from you soon.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you marrying a man younger than you as long as you two have an understanding. I like the fact that you have both agreed to not let society dictate to you how to live your lives.
However, you as the woman have a lot to do. You need to regard him as the head – whether you’re in public or in the confines of your space. Let nothing possess you to speak to him, treat him or regard him as a junior. It is something that can puncture his self esteem.
Lastly, try and watch your weight. Pay attention to what he likes and cut off what he tells you is a no-no. If you two are going to be married, you’ll have to acknowledge him as boss and be ready to please him ultimately. I think it’s a good thing you are aware of his concerns, so you know what you need to do. Whilst you should be comfortable in your own skin, you need to also defer to his preferences regarding such details as your weight, looks, etc. Else, end the relationship and both of you, go find more suitable options.
I wish you both the best in the decisions you make.