Dear Davina,

I have been in a relationship for five years now but in the past one year his character has changed. He calls me once in three months and we chat three or four times a week. Whenever I ask that we break up, he says NO.

He has asked me to marry him now but his character is still the same. Please what should I do?

________________________________________________________________________

My 2-Cents:

It definitely doesn’t add up. The picture you’ve painted seems to suggest that you two are not in the same city. Calling once in three months is not a relationship. Knowing how many times you chat just doesn’t sit well at all. Even as platonic friends, calling once a month doesn’t cut it.

Meanwhile, have you met his parents? Family members? I think you have invested too much in this relationship to be treated this way. I mean, 5 years is no joke.

Read also: HE hasn’t given me ANYTHING in the 2 years we’ve dated & He wants to marry me

Have a sit-talk with him if you can. I really do not think the guy is being sincere. Whilst it’s flattering that he would ask you to marry him, I don’t trust that his marriage proposal. I suspect he is gauging other options and is just stringing you along until he is sure. You might need to pick yourself up and move on.

Much Love
Davina

———————————————————————————————

TO ALL DD READERS….

You can send your “Dear Davina’ letters to me directly @ davina.r@davinadiaries.com. I assure you whatever you send to this mailbox is ‘for my eyes only’ and I promise complete anonymity where I decide to publish your letter.

I look forward to hearing from you…

xoxoxoxoxo

Davina

Comments

comments

42 COMMENTS

  1. Lol where is love when the niggah doesnt give u attention??I mean ONCE in 3 Whole month!!! thats insane i must tell.communication builds a relo..u dnt just leave the woman hanging…if u need sumthn badly u pursure it madly…he still havent realize ur worth that why he does that.leave him 4 a month and see if he cares.mxm

  2. Lol where is love when the niggah doesnt give u attention??I mean ONCE in 3 Whole month!!! thats insane i must tell.communication builds a relo..u dnt just leave the woman hanging…if u need sumthn badly u pursure it madly…he still havent realize ur worth that why he does that.leave him 4 a month and see if he cares.mxm

    • God bless U righteous you.I’m nothing but a realist madam Funmilola Okubote.if she is asking questions it means she is in doubt and does not trust her instincts.a man calls U once in three months Nd yet claims he loves U enough to marry U and pls love struck people like you see nothing wrong with it?…as much as I’m a big fan of love, relationship and marriage I beg to disagree on this one.First ofs what does she know abt this man?.she didn’t even say they see.she said call and same people encouraging her to marry a friendly stranger ll still mock her wen she ll come back to fb to seek for advice on how to break up or manage D husband by proxy.I just hate wen people know the truth and give a blind eye. Most marriages where women suffer, we see it coming but for D sake of wot D society thinks we walk in to burning coal just to be married or stay married.if U r married is dat how U married urs…Please excuse you.smh

  3. Madam funmilola okubote called me wicked cos I advised she runs for her life,nawa ooo.desperadoes easy ooo.some one said callin is not love yes I agree but marriage is a whole different level.there’s no rational reason and excuse.

  4. If he calls u ones in three months it then means if he marries u he will forget u in the house. Women needs attention and be sure he wont , he will feel ur used to it and any day u raise it then trouble for u. That’s my candid opinion

  5. As far as am concerned to him ure a spare,his attention is somewhere but his not sure of the person he doesn’t wanna loose out cos to me men don’t get heart broken it’s there ego that gets broken and to sum this all up communication is vital in a relationship even if a person is so busy he cnt be so busy not to reach out to his/ her loved one.my dear ask for Gods direction by praying and d God I know will definitely show u signs.

  6. What if he gives excuse dt his phone was bad, he wasn’t able to reach out to her, or anoda story dt his work does not allow him all dt time lk mayb an onshore offshore work.
    Note* I am not supporting d man.

LEAVE A REPLY