Hello everyone, time for another Dear Davina. Thanks for keeping the conversation flowing. Also thanks for your letters. Please be patient with me if I don’t get to answer your letters as fast as you want me to. We do three Dear Davina a week and it is usually not enough to clear the backlog of what we have. I do answer some of them privately. They are too revealing and no matter how much I try to change them, they are too obvious. Today, we take the story of Leticia. It is a bit of an interesting Dear Davina but one that I am sure a number of you can relate to. Please take time to enjoy other stories from Davina Diaries.
Dear Davina: My best friend slept with my boyfriend
Am Leticia and I am 24 years Old. My best friend slept with my boyfriend whom I had been dating for 4years and she confessed it to me.
I was doing my NYSC away from my home when he came to visit, he called but I was busy at that time, so I told him that since he was always alone he could call my friend to come to keep him company.
Only for her to tell me after some time that she slept with my boyfriend that please I should not poison her that it just happened. It started with him complaining that I hardly had time for him. She then offered him a friend of hers but when he called the girl the girl was not able to come through. The next thing she knew, they had sex and she still doesn’t know how it happened.
I am still friends with her. Several people have told me that I should stay away from her. I have since broken up with my boyfriend. Please, Dear Davina, I need your advice. what should I do? Should I continue to be friends with her?
My 2 cents…
Thanks so much for your mail. I appreciate your trust in me.
As far as I am concerned, the matter is an open and closed case. I believe you should walk away from this so-called friend of yours. It is pretty obvious that she has a problem. it is well beyond her sleeping with your boyfriend.
First of all, your friend doesn’t recognize relationship boundaries. Your boyfriend came visiting, you trusted her enough to ask her to keep him company and yet she decided to break the trust. In her own words as related by you, Your boyfriend wanted someone to have sex with and she arranged someone to come to sleep with your man. This is a serious matter. Then when the so-called person didn’t appear, she chose to comfort him by offering herself.
I would have taken it differently if it truly was a case that something sudden happened between them but this is premeditated. Such a person can’t be trusted.
Secondly and most importantly, because she doesn’t recognise these boundaries, it means that she is likely to try it again, this time with another boyfriend or even with your husband. If she doesn’t sleep with them, She would be arranging women for them to sleep me.
There is just one advice from me. Sit her down, talk some sense into her head and be wary of her. This person isn’t qualified to be called a best friend.
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