I’m 34 years old. I met a girl 3 months ago and fell in love with her. Ever since, it’s been one problem or the other. When I met her, I asked if she had a boyfriend and she said she had one boyfriend but she was not sure about marrying him. I then went ahead with the relationship, believing I could win her love over.
Truly, she loves me. She’s from my tribe and she has proven to me that she loves me. But the problem is: I don’t trust her. She lies to me all the time; She says something today and says another thing tomorrow. She always puts her timeline off on whatsapp, for me not to know when she is online. She likes to please every man in her life, even the people in her office.
Sometimes, she answers calls and I know she’s discussing with her lover or her toaster. She also answers strange calls. The last time we were together and she received a call, she told me she had to leave. Apparently, she was not comfortable answering the call while I was there; I knew she wanted to go somewhere more comfortable.
Three weeks ago, her boyfriend called from USA and later called from a Nigerian line. I picked the call and discovered it was her boyfriend. I told her it was over and we broke up for one week. But because I love her, I called her and we became lovers again.
Her friend’s birthday was Monday, she told me it was on Wednesday. I went to her Facebook timeline and found out the birthday was on Monday. I didn’t call her for three days and she didn’t come online for three days. And that’s what she does when she’s with me, she never goes online or handles her phone during the days days she spends with me. I went to her house and found out she hadn’t been home for two days.
Yesterday, she asked me a question: She asked if it was possible to love two guys at once. She said she’s love with me and in love with her other boyfriend. The problem now is that each time I think about her, I cry, I have never loved any woman like this before, Please I need your advice. Thanks
Brother, I can’t believe you’re still asking for advice, with the handwriting on the wall as clear as it is. I mean, are you that desperate? Even as a lady myself, I am quite riled that you would put up with this much drama from a lady you are in a relationship with. In all fairness, the girl already told you she had a boyfriend but you went ahead, hoping to win her over. So far, so good, your plan hasn’t worked; and she has told you to your face she is still in love with the other guy. Let it go already!
You have tried. You have made an attempt… Now, please take what’s left of your dignity and move on. All the drama/heartache is most unnecessary. Let the girl choose who she wants to be with. If she chooses you, fantastic! If not, don’t worry, you’ll find another woman who will love you as much as you love her and who will be all yours… All in good time.
All the best sir.
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