Jealousy and Controlling Behavior: 5 simple ways to stop them from ruining your relationship

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What triggers your jealousy? The answer is different for everyone.

It’s important to identify what triggers your jealousy and then take steps to minimize the influence that trigger has on you. Most important of all is to practice techniques that help you to calm down and see more clearly.

No matter whether your jealousy is triggered by your partner’s ex, social situations, or distance in your relationship, these five cures will help you move beyond the trigger’s effects and teach you how to stop being jealous for the sake of your own health and your relationship.

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1. Find a way to let out your negative feelings

All of that frustration and anxiety isn’t going to go away on its own. Instead of trying to dull, distract, or deny how you feel, find a way to let it out. Contrary to what your impulse might be, you don’t have to let it out all over your partner, either!

Create a private space and time for yourself to give a whoop and holler. A round of yelling — not at anyone — can be cleansing and will help you release those pent-up emotions.

2. Soak in a hot bath

Water can be very soothing for stirred up feelings, including jealousy. If just thinking about what’s triggering your jealousy is too much to take, run a hot bath and go soak in the tub. If you’d like to be more active, go to your local pool or lake and take a swim.

3. Write it all down

Write down the thoughts you’re having about your partner’s ex, the flirting, or your fears that you will be betrayed and left.

Write it all down without censoring yourself and then focus in on the central thought or belief. Question it. Look for facts to show you that this thought or belief is not as solid and “true” as you might think.

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4. Take a brisk walk alone

Interrupting the momentum of your jealousy can be a huge help. If you’re caught up in worry because your partner will be spending time with her ex, clear your head by going for a brisk walk.

As you walk, direct your attention to your breath, your surroundings, and the feel of your feet on the ground. This calm and clarity is an essential part of handling a triggering situation with more grace and ease than usual.

5. Love yourself and your partner

One thing that will make your jealousy grow and possibly build beyond control is if you meet it with criticism, hostility, and hatred.

It’s understandable that you don’t like to feel jealous — nobody does. It’s even understandable that you don’t like certain situations or even people. But, don’t let negativity inflame your jealousy. The more you can cultivate sincere love, the better.

Love yourself. Love your partner. If you can, love the feelings you’re having.

Your jealousy is an important signal. It’s telling you to slow down and go inside yourself to understand what you’re feeling and what you need to do for yourself to feel better.

 

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