A lot of people think happy couples do not have issues, and that is not true. With happy couples, things are not always as it seems. The unique thing about happy couples is knowing how to deal with difficult times in their relationship. Below are few of the ‘happy couple’ myth you have been made to believe that are not really true…
- MYTH: Happy couples can see things through each other’s eyes.
REALITY: You can’t possibly see things the same way as your mate because you’re just not the same people. You’re different genetically, physically and psychologically, and you’ve had different experiences in the world. Besides, men and women aren’t wired the same.
2. MYTH: Happy couples always have lots of romance.
REALITY: Most people confuse that giddy, dizzy feeling you have early on in your relationship with romance. Nope. That’s called “infatuation,” and it will pass. It’s novelty, excitement, and newness, but it doesn’t sustain a relationship. Romantic love is emotionally driven.
3. MYTH: Happy couples can resolve all their disagreements.
REALITY: There are some basic issues you will always disagree about. You each have your own opinions on these things that won’t change. Just agree to disagree.
4. MYTH: Happy couples need to have common interests.
REALITY: It’s a bonus if you do, but there’s nothing wrong with your relationship if you don’t do the same activities. If you and your partner are forcing yourself to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension, and conflict, don’t do it!
5. MYTH: Happy couples don’t fight.
REALITY: Conflict is a fact of life in most relationships, and arguing… as long as it’s not destructive and doesn’t turn into character assassination, isn’t a negative thing. Arguing can actually help the relationship by releasing tension and instilling the sense of peace and trust that comes from knowing you can express feelings without being abandoned or humiliated.
6. MYTH: Being a happy couple has nothing to do with sex.
REALITY: If you want a good sexual relationship, it needs to be embedded in a good overall relationship. That being said, a good sexual relationship is important, because it can make you feel closer, more relaxed, more accepted and more involved with your partner. The intimacy that comes from sexual interaction takes the relationship to a completely different level. Keep sex on your list of priorities.