Lady, So you want to marry?
So the other day, I saw this beautiful lady, Funke. Funke is on the beautiful side of pretty. Above average height for a lady, dark skinned, soft spoken and with the kind of body that makes men stop their cars and ask if they could pick her.
Funke is a university graduate, speaks very good English and Yoruba and she has a good job. Not a fantastic job but enough to rent a good apartment in a good part of Lagos.
And there’s Funke at 35; she wants to marry but it seems no one wants to marry her.
Ijeoma is a dark-skinned beauty with a fantastic job with one of the multinational oil companies. After putting so much and 10 years into her career, at 37, Ijeoma is an executive. She has a beautiful apartment, her own car and lots of money at her disposal. But, you guessed it, no man.
In a bid to attract a man, Ijeoma has gone to the extent of leaving her car at home and joining the company bus in order to meet Mr right but it just ain’t happening.
Abosede is a pretty and cute dark -skinned young lady of 28. Perfectly curved, soft spoken and highly intelligent. Bose has been wanting to marry since she was 21. It just seems like all the men out there are either married, too young or unserious.
Can you identify with any of these ladies?( “and that is how the counseling starts”- not sure what this statement is doing here)
I come across a lot of lovely/ beautiful ladies (choose one)who want to get married and somehow aren’t. Meanwhile, I have seen many guys who want to get married and are not either.
Is it only me seeing it? Somehow, even though we see several ladies ready, the guys don’t seem to be in the marriage space. Some are too young, don’t have good jobs, are not serious enough, etc. it sometimes looks like the girls are ready before the boys. Hmmmmmmm serious matter.
Anyways, with several pastoring years under my belt, I will attempt to answer several of the issues why a lady remains unmarried even when she wants to.
Please send in your comments, your questions and suggestions. I intend to make this as interactive as possible.
so you want to marry…. Yes, I want to marry!
Now, most times, the women think it is one curse or one demon husband stopping them from marrying or hiding the husband. But the question is how come the demon husband is attacking just you and leaving everyone else? How come that girl uglier than you has problems keeping away the boys and yet, you with all your beauty can’t attract the boys? The only men that come your way are married men? ( and that is a story for another day!)
Something interesting is how some ladies have a problem making up their mind about the various suitors in their space while others can’t seem to attract any reasonable looking man. Hmmmmmm, open your eyes and look.
So you want to marry? Marriageability quotient
The truth is that every woman can be classified along 3 lines: mildly marriageable , marriageable and highly marriageable. So indeed all women are marriageable – how else do you think that plain looking woman got that knockout husband?
While, yes, being fine increases your marriageability, it is not a guarantee. The beauty stands as a magnet to attract but you must add some extra quality. One thing we must notice in these days of beauty makeup is that ugliness is a choice.
So how does a women make herself highly marriageable? We will discuss that in our next topic… Qualities highly marriageable women possess. Get them and see suitors flock around you!
See you next week as we continue talking about “so you want to marry “