Touch is one of the most intimate of all actions. It allows you to move into sacred space, creating presence and connection. Although most women love to hear the words, “I love you,” touching and affection catapult relationships into true intimacy.
Furthermore, touch is the communication of love. It engages the senses for our emotional and physical well-being and pleasure and is a powerful way to express what we cannot say.
Yet, most people don’t touch as often as they would like. Afraid of being rejected as being needy or vulnerable, they cover their need for intimacy with work, activities, TV, food, drugs and alcohol.
If you want intimacy, it’s time to break the touch barriers. And the first step to developing a successful, intimate relationship with your partner is to first build intimacy with yourself.
Exploring every inch of your body will help you get to know what you like and what makes you feel good. Once you’ve got this down, you can reach out to your partner with confidence to create the closeness you crave.
With all these fantastic reasons to bring touch into relationships, let’s take a look at 7 ways you can incorporate touch into your life.
Applying lotion to your body guarantees that all of your skin will be touched and rubbed. For an added calming effect, use an aromatherapy lotion scented with lavender.
Full-body hugging increases closeness, connection, and safety.
A 20-second kiss will raise his testosterone levels and make you feel closer.
4. Back rubs
Studies show that a daily back rub drastically reduces anxiety and creates positive changes in attitude.
The shoulders, hands and feet create an emotional release when touched. New York-based sex therapist, Mildred Witkin, suggests couples should practice touching in a way that is not explicitly sexual to keep intimacy and playfulness alive.
This popular fitness trend offers many of the benefits of touch because the poses involve rubbing limb against limb. Some Iyengar yoga classes also include a partnered practise — a great way to get your RDA of touching.
Dance classes are a great way to meet new people and have your hand and waist held all evening long. Contact your local dance studio for schedules. Touching is your gateway to intimacy, providing a powerful, solid message of care, support, acknowledgement, and love.