The good news is you’ve got a first date coming! Now what? As you’re thinking over what to talk about on a first date with a new guy, conventional wisdom suggests you should have some fun “get to know you” questions to ask and ideas of things to talk about prepared in advance.
With that in mind, here are the most helpful tips on what to talk about on a first date, as well as which topics to avoid in first date conversation.
With all the buildup, you think I’d have some profound topics for you to talk about, but I don’t — and that’s exactly the point.
What I’m suggesting is that you keep it simple and talk about the things you like to do.
When a guy first meets you, if he likes you, the first thing he’s thinking about is what he can do with you next. By telling him about your hobbies In a casual way, you’re planting the seeds of ideas for things he can ask you to do when he asks you on your next date.
On the flip-side, the main thing to avoid is interviewing him.
He’s not there with you because he’s looking for a second job. If you start to asking him interview-type questions in an attempt to qualify or disqualify him as a potential boyfriend, you’ll turn him off.
A guy has that like you before he’ll want to impress you. Once that happens, he will tell you everything you need to know.
The easiest way to get a guy to ask you out on a second date is to tell him what kind of food you like.
Remember, when a guy likes you he’s gathering data to use in the future. By telling him the kind of food you do and don’t like. you’re setting the table for your next meal together.
On a first date, a guy is really just establishing whether or not he thinks it’s fun to be with you, and the same should be true for you.
Being playful while bantering and enjoying each other‘s company is what makes for chemistry.
On the flip side, the second thing to avoid is being too serious. Nothing is more unattractive to most men than a woman who takes herself and the conversation too seriously on a first date.
First date conversations should be light, fun, and non-directional. There is a time and place for seriousness, but a first date is not it.
3. Whatever feels good
If you want to make a lot of points with a guy, compliment him on the planning he put into your first date. Tell them how what he’s done feels good to you.
Guys operate from a simple premise. They ask themselves, “Can I make her happy?”
If the answer is yes, the conversation flows freely. If the answer is no, it’s going to be an awkward night.
The flip side of this is behaving as though you’re bored. I’m not saying you won’t go on dates with guys who are boring, I’m just suggesting that you not be the one who makes it that way.
This simply means being excited about enjoying the simple things in life, like hobbies, food and things that feel good to you.